One of my friends at work was telling me and another friend some issues she has been having with her roommate. The issues have been happening for months and my friend is getting seriously frustrated. At the end of the conversation, I said, "Girls! There's always so much drama. This was exactly why I hung out with guys a lot in high school."
And it's true! I have a few very good girl friends who are just fine with me and I'm just fine with them and there's no crap in the middle, just friendship. We love and respect each other for who we are and that's that. But there are plenty of other friends that are girls that just create problems. Don't get me wrong, I'm certainly not saying that guys are better than girls and I'm not putting all girls into a box, which is why I mentioned my awesome girl friends. In discussing this with other girls, many of them completely agree and tend to keep friendships with guys for the very same reason.
Maybe it's because I enjoyed spending time with my dad or because I ended up playing with my brothers growing up, but I just enjoy the company of guys. I know this probably sounds a little harsh, but you don't have to be so overly concerned with feelings when you are talking with a man - for the most part. You can usually be pretty frank about things, but you have to be able to take that in return as well. I usually appreciate when someone can be just flat-out honest with me. And I'm a girl, so my little feelings may get hurt at first. But I'll get over it.
After the comment I made with my friend, a male friend of ours who was sitting in on the conversation said, "You're what we called a tease in high school." At which point I said, "I'm sure I did my fair share of flirting, but I wasn't hot enough to be a tease!" It's always good to keep yourself in perspective! Ha!
But yeah, I'll admit, some flirting went on. Overall though, just friendship. I just can't figure out why this all happens this way. Growing up, many of my girl friends felt it was their job to tell me how to live my life or compete with me for, well, attention I guess. Put the nails down, girls. It's going to be OK.
I'll be honest though. I'm sure I've caused my own fair share of drama in my lifetime. And Chris, being my best friend of all time, has heard more female crap than he'd care to, I'm sure. (Thanks for hanging in there, man!) But that brings another point to mind. I think a lot of guys go to girls for friendship because they feel they can open up more to a woman. Unfortunately our society pegs men as weak when they share their feelings with other men, so to the women they go.
I hope I don't piss any women off in writing this, especially considering those great girl friends that I mentioned before are the ones who read this blog. I think interpersonal communication just really interests me, so I've given some thought to this. There's probably some psychological reason for my feeling this way, too.
In a shout out to the girls though, we ARE the stronger sex! Ha! Well, maybe not, but now that I'm a mom I just want to know why the men can't be pregnant, give birth and breast feed - oh, and multitask!
Oh well... here are my two favorite guys:
Random update: Logan just turned 3 months old on Saturday and is now at 12 pounds 2 ounces. He's been a little sick and had a rough couple of nights but seems to be getting better!
Oh, and do you dig my new look?
9 comments:
I totally dig your new look! Great job on the header, my dear!
And I feel you on what you wrote.
I'm offended.
Very cool new header, though.
Not in the least offended. In general, I'd agree. I hope Logan feels better soon!
Oh, and I love the new look/header!
Yes, we dig the new look! Not only another new post, but a flashy new banner!
Those are some good-looking dudes you got there.
I tended to have a bunch of female friends for the same reason. There's no need to compete and I had no desire to compete. I was also apparently a very good listener in high school.
And you were one of those girls who was a tease and didn't even know it.
Love the new banner! Even though you are clearly a misogynist.
(I kid!)
I like the new look.
I also agree that girls tend to love the drama more than the boys. We have one friend that married a total drama queen. It is literally a chore to hang out with them now.
I teach 24 10 year old girls...so drama? YES! MUCH! TOO MUCH! KILL ME NOW! I don't know what woudl be worse...the psychological drama I deal with every day or having 24 inner-city project boys who lash out and punch each other when they are mad.... but I have had my limit of girl drama...this is for sure!
And HOW DID YOU ADD THE BANNER? So cool! I want one!
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